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5 Dangerous Traps
There are several common traps we fall into as parents and teachers. Here's a quick guide to keep you out of quick sand, so you don't end up over your head.

Trap 1: Comparing your kids. Comparing your child to siblings, peers or even yourself is a dead end. Each child is unique and comparing to artificial standards and expectations leads only to frustration, demeaning comments and a child who shuts down under too much pressure. Measure and celebrate progress, not perfection. If you want to get to point Z with behavior or skills, you have to go from point A to B to C. Praise along the way. Celebrate each small step so you don't go backwards.

By the way, if all your friends have perfect little angels who make the honor roll every semester, get new friends : ) Just kidding, but don't let societal pressure and anxiety cause you to press your child.

Trap 2: Being responsible for your kids' or spouse's happiness. Did you know that you are not responsible for your child's happiness?

The truth is that I am not responsible for my son's happiness, attitudes and choices--he is. Knowing that liberates me from trying to control him. Likewise, I cannot allow my child's mood to determine mine. If so, my child has complete control over me. We don't have time to cover that here, but we deal with this in detail on our Parenting CD #4: Getting Your Kids to be Responsible for themselves. We also explain why you should disappoint your child, on purpose. It's good for you and your child!

Likewise, relying on our spouse for our own happiness only leads to resentment. This is one of the things that people comment on most after listening to the Calm Couples curriculum--"Oh, I didn't realize that!" We give out of wholeness and sacrifice for others, but we cannot take on the burden of making our spouse happy. It isn't fair to them or us.

Trap 3: Focusing on changing outward behavior. This is the biggest trap of traditional behavior management, and why parents are continually frustrated that endless consequences and some therapy doesn't work for their kids. The trap is that outward behavior is merely a smokescreen hiding the underlying issue. So trying to "fix" outward behavior sends us down a destructive path while never dealing with the root issue.

Quick example: several parents have told us that since their children have been refusing to complete classwork and lying about their homework. Most people would focus inordinate time on lying, which only reinforces more lying. The truth, though, is that lying isn't even close to being the real issue. The real issue is that many children are overwhelmed and have shut down--so putting more pressure on kids to do more work and giving consequences for lying will only cause the situation to get worse. Their children need TOOLS to overcome the overwhelmed feeling. Once we do this, productivity will increase and there will be no reason to lie. No matter what behavior you are struggling with, step back for a minute and try to get to the underlying root issue. That's the power of the Calm approach.

Trap 4: Being inconsistent. "How do I STAY calm?" As you know, nothing is more important for our kids than consistency. But it's tough when the stresses of daily life cause us to revert to old habits. I'll leave it to a compassionate Mom who echoes the thoughts of many others.

"Kirk, every time I use your strategies, they work like a charm. My problem was that I would do okay for a day or a week, but then I'd fall back into old habits, feel guilty and go through this horrible cycle. That's when I decided I needed a Daily Coach and that's what I call you! I got your CDs and I just keep them in my iPod, my car, at home, scattered around. I listen first thing in the morning, when I work out, but most importantly right before I pick my kids up or when I'm pulling taxi duty for the four boys. Your voice is calming and it's just a great reminder that CALM is my goal and calm works. I have to say, I've been doing this for two months now...and EVERYONE notices the difference. My kids, my own parents, my friends, even my kids' teachers and my husband."

I personally "reset" myself a dozen times throughout the day. When I do, the day and all my interactions go much, much better. Practice this.

Trap 5: Misunderstanding and labeling your kids and students. Unless we understand the way our kids' brains are wired, we will continually misunderstand and label our children. Over time, this can have devastating consequences if we destroy confidence and create self-fulfilling prophecies ("I'm just stupid.").

Sometimes a child will be called aggressive and labeled as a bad kid, when in reality his physical behavior is a manifestation of trying to meet sensory needs. Giving him exercise and sensory experiences in the morning can alleviate the issue quickly.

Sometimes we ostracize a student for being "lazy," especially when he is bright like our kids, because he has difficulty getting thoughts from head to paper. If we give him tools to make writing easier, the laziness magically disappears!

Sometimes the child who is a slow processor rushes to get his work done so he doesn't feel stupid, feel like the last one done and miss recess. He will be labeled as careless and sloppy. He just needs different tools because his processing style is different.

You and your kids must understand exactly how their brains work. This is liberating and empowering. The most gratifying part of our work is hearing from kids who are listening to our curriculum on their iPods and discovering that they aren't bad kids or weird, that there isn't something wrong with them, that they just need to learn how to overcome weaknesses while they use their creativity and energy to their advantage. That's powerful

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Monday, August 17th--6:00 pm ALL AGES
Wednesday, August 19th--9:00 am BABIES (newborn to 18 months)
Wednesday, August 19th--10:00 am TODDLERS (18 months-3 years)
Wednesday, August 19th--4:30 pm PRESCHOOL/SCHOOL AGE (3-7 years)

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Brenda Haynes, MEd
573-881-1574
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Summer is off to a good start at the Kindermusik studio! With Yoga camps in June, Kindermusik camps in July, and Fun Family events TBA in August to get ready for Fall, we are all very busy!

SUMMER CAMPS are filling up fast! Check out the summer schedule here!

Enroll in summer and fall sessions together and pay in full and save $20 up til the day your summer class starts! Enroll in fall alone by July 15th and save $10! Call me at 573-881-1574 to take advantage of these savings! See the fall schedule here!

Miss Gretchen and Miss Melanie will both be teaching some classes, but we are still working out the details! Look out for updates to the fall schedule!

Summer Yoga Camps start next week! See the Yoga schedule here!

We hope to see you at the studio this summer!

There is still room in Spring Classes with 8 weeks left! Your tuition will be prorated according to how many classes remain when you enroll. Baby classes start a new curriculum called Rhythm of My Day the week of March 30th! Call today for your free class visit! Summer and Fall class descriptions are below. You can see the Summer Schedule by scrolling all the way to the bottom of this email or clicking this link! Sign up by April 20th and save $5. Sign up for summer and fall by April 20th and save $20! Siblings take an additional $5 off for summer and $15 off for fall! Call me to sign up for summer and fall as the fall schedule is not yet up on the website! SUMMER 2009 June 27-August 1 (5 weeks) CURRICULA DESCRIPTIONS: Busy Days newborn to 1.5 years $90 M: 10-10:45 & 5-5:45, Wed: 9-9:45 Set your baby's day to classical music. With a little more Tchaikovsky in your "Twinkle, Twinkle" repertoire discover new ways baby benefits from the classics as you develop an appreciation for the world's most respected music. Each lesson features new activities and songs that the parent can sing for all the places baby and mom go together the store, the playground, the doctor, and more. Home Materials: Busy Day board book, Home CD, Village cage bell instrument, and poster. Creatures at the Ocean 1.5 years to 3 years $90 M: 9-9:45 & 4-4:45, T: 10-10:45, W: 10-10:45 & 11-11:45, Sat: 10-10:45 Sing sailor songs and make the ocean count. "Five little seashells lying on the shore: Swish! Went the waves and then there were four." Make homemade kites and more! Home Materials: Home CD, pair of seashell castanet instrument, a set of 10 story cards and 5 picture folders. On the Road 3 years to 5 years $90 M: 11-11:45, Wed: 4:30-5:15, Sat: 11-11:45 Re-live your childhood, with your child. Every song is likely to revive a memory from your summers' past. Play "Eye Spy" and find shapes in the clouds to pass the time. Take imaginary trips in a bus named 'Van Go' to fun-filled vacation destinations such as the carnival, a summer cottage, and the beach. Home Materials: On the Road book, Home CD, frog guiro instrument, and poster. Tell Me a Tale 4 years to 7 years $110 Tue: 11:00-12:00 & 4:30-5:30 Through storytelling, children will develop an early awareness of rhythm, movement, singing, and drama. Each lesson features a new tale from around the world, explored through multi-instrument and multi-cultural elements. All told, it's an around-the-imagination adventure of the greatest stories from Europe, Malaysia, South Africa, and more. Home Materials: Tell Me a Tale book, Home CD, pair of lumi sticks instrument, and poster. Family Time--all ages Mon: 6-6:45, Sat 9-9:45 Tuesday 9-9:45 $90 1 child/$140 2 children/$30 add'l child Creatures at the Ocean --See above Sign up for summer by April 15th and save $5! Sing us for summer and fall together by April 15th and save $20! Siblings take $5 off for summer, $15 off for fall FALL 2009 August 24 - December 19 (15 weeks) Village 0-18 months M: 10-10:45 & 5-5:45, Wed: 9-9:45 $230 Feathers (first 7 weeks)--The musical poems of Woody Guthrie, bird songs, and the naturally occurring sounds in nature help babies develop an early appreciation and accelerated aptitude?for language, movement, and music in this class. Home Materials: CD with over 25 specially-selected recordings from class, Little Bird shaker instrument, a colorful picture book of birds Feathers, and a set of Art Banners for the nursery wall that strengthens vision and promotes early literacy. Do-Si-Do (last 8 weeks)--Pick up your baby and dance. Dance the Charleston, the Tango, and the Cha-Cha and learn why dancing with your baby helps develop vital learning skills from -to-toe. In this class, play a variety of baby appropriate instruments, a dance with fun props. Home Materials: CD with songs from class, an instrument yellow Do-Si-Do clacker, a picture board book Do-Si-Do with lilting move-to-it rhyming text, and a set of Art Banners for the nursery wall that strengthens vision and promotes early literacy. Our Time 18 mo-3 yrs M: 9-9:45 & 4-4:45, T: 10-10:45, W: 10-10:45 & 11-11:45, Sat: 10-10:45 $225 Wiggles & Giggles --The more than 30 songs, 15 dances, and eight different instruments create these unique music activities, designed to reflect the importance of movement in the life of a toddler. Home Materials: Double CD features 50 songs, sounds, and recordings of favorite activities from class; two story books Watch Me! and Pete and P.J., to develop early literacy skills; Home Activity Book; and specially-made pair of zigzag blocks instrument to develop rhythm and hand-eye coordination. Imagine That 3-5 years M: 11-11:45, Wed: 4:30-5:15, Sat: 11-11:45 $230 Hello Weather! Let's Play Together! sunshine, rain, snow, thunderstorms, and more in this imaginative and delightful weather-related musical adventure. Preschoolers create storm sounds with a drum to Wild Storms, jump in pretend puddles to 'Mud Puddle Jump,' throw pretend snow-balls to Snowballs, and sing along to 'Colors of the Rainbow.' With weather as our learning theme, preschoolers will explore musical styles that range from Opera to American folk, and become more self-sufficient in a creative musical environment that integrates music, pretend play, storytelling, movement, and more. Home Materials: Two books Michael Finnigan and Hurry Home, Little Kittens, Hello Weather Play Set, Two Home CD with over 63 recordings of the stories, games, and weather sound effects played in class, 46-page Family Activity Book, and two instruments- ankle bells and rain shaker with scraper. Young Child 5-7 years Semester Three Tues: 4:30-5:30 $260 ($280 new student) Appalachian music is a featured musical style this semester. First, you and your child will build a two-stringed dulcimer instrument with materials that we'll provide. Then in class we'll learn to play chords and simple melodies on the instrument you built together. We'll also explore rhythm concepts through dance with an introduction to the basic steps in jazz, ballet, and tap dances. Your Home Materials include dulcimer-making materials, activity cards, and music that features recordings from Appalachia, African-America, and Native American music, as well as the Western Art music of the Nutcracker Suite. Home Materials: Children's Folder with stickers, games bag, and Music At Home Cards, Family Songbook, Home CD of music from class, and dulcimer. Family Time all ages Tuesday 9-9:45, Monday 6-6:45, Saturday 9-9:45 Here, There and Everywhere the five sub-themes center around different family outings: a visit with a friend, an outing at the park, a trip to the city, an afternoon at the aquarium, and a day on the farm. Move like animals with this unit?s story Flip-Flap, Sugar Snap! And follow a girl;'s adventure as she loses her jambourine during the day's outings and then finds it in the story Jingle-Jangle Jambourine. Home Materials: Two Book-?Flip-Flap, Sugar Snap! and Jingle-Jangle Jambourine, Two Home CDs, Family Guide, board game, Waggs the dog hand puppet and finger puppet, and two jambourine instruments. Day & Time Course Unit Ages Teacher Location Price Mon @ 10:00 AM starts 6/29/09 Adventures Baby Busy Days 0-18m Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Mon @ 5:00 PM starts 6/29/09 Adventures Baby Busy Days 0-18m Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Wed @ 9:00 AM starts 7/1/09 Adventures Baby Busy Days 0-18m Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Sat @ 9:00 AM starts 6/27/09 Family Time Here, There, Everywhere 0-7 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $120.00 Register! Tue @ 9:00 AM starts 6/29/09 Family Time Here, There, Everywhere 0-7 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $120.00 Register! Mon @ 6:00 PM starts 6/29/09 Family Time Here, There, Everywhere 0-7 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $120.00 Register! Sat @ 10:00 AM starts 6/27/09 Adventures Toddler Creatures at the Ocean 18m-3 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Mon @ 9:00 AM starts 6/29/09 Adventures Toddler Creatures at the Ocean 18m-3 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Mon @ 4:00 PM starts 6/29/09 Adventures Toddler Creatures at the Ocean 18m-3 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Tue @ 10:00 AM starts 6/30/09 Adventures Toddler Creatures at the Ocean 18m-3 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Wed @ 10:00 AM starts 7/1/09 Adventures Toddler Creatures at the Ocean 18m-3 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Wed @ 11:00 AM starts 7/1/09 Adventures Toddler Creatures at the Ocean 18m-3 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Sat @ 11:00 AM starts 6/27/09 Adventures Pre-School On the Road! 3-5 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Mon @ 11:00 AM starts 6/29/09 Adventures Pre-School On the Road! 3-5 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Thu @ 9:00 AM starts 6/30/09 Adventures Pre-School On the Road! 3-5 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Wed @ 4:30 PM starts 7/1/09 Adventures Pre-School On the Road! 3-5 Melanie June Schmitz Parkade Center $90.00 Register! Tue @ 11:00 AM starts 6/30/09 Adventures Young Child Tell Me A Tale 4-7 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $100.00 Register! Tue @ 4:30 PM starts 6/30/09 Adventures Young Child Tell Me A Tale 4-7 Brenda Haynes Parkade Center $100.00 Register!

Happy 5 Year Anniversary Kindermusik with Brenda!!

Your first class is free! Join the current session and your tuition will be prorated. Enroll during week 5 (March 2-7--My 5 year anniversary!) and save an additional $10! *10 weeks left if you enroll next week! Check below to see savings if you enroll during my 5 year Anniversary Week!

Class Schedule

*Cost if enrolling in week 5

Village: 10 weeks/45 minutes $175*
Hickory, Dickory, Tickle and Bounce/Rhythm of My Day
Join Village the week of March 31-April 3 when the new curriculum, Rhythm of My Day starts $120 (8 weeks)
Mondays 10 -- Miss Brenda (2 spaces left)
Mondays 5 -- Miss Gretchen
Wednesday 9 -- Miss Gretchen (childcare available)
Wednesday 6 pm--Miss Melanie (Starts April 1)

Our Time (18 months-3 years): 10 weeks/45 minutes $165
Fiddle Dee Dee
Monday 9 (2 spaces left) -- Miss Brenda
Monday 4 -- Miss Gretchen (4 spaces left)
Wednesday 10:00 (1 space left) -- Miss Brenda
Wednesday 11:00 -- Miss Gretchen (childcare available)
Saturday 10 -- (4 spaces left) Miss Brenda

Imagine That: 10 weeks/45 minutes $175
Cities! Busy Places, Friendly Faces
Monday 11 -- Miss Brenda
Wednesday 4:30 -- (1 space left) Miss Melanie
Saturday 11 -- Miss Brenda

Young Child: 10 weeks/60 minutes $220
Tuesday 4:30 -- Miss Brenda

Family Time: 10 weeks/45 minutes $180 1st child, $100 2nd child, $50 each additional child) --this class is not 'made' yet! Please let me know if you are interested and I can add it ASAP!
Here, There, Everywhere
Saturday 9 -- Miss Brenda

Sign and Sing: 45 minutes/5 weeks $85, 10 weeks $165
Session A March 31-April 28 Session B (coming in summer)
Tuesday 9 -- Miss Brenda

Call 573-881-1574 or email me today at brenda@kindermusikwithbrenda.com to save your spot!

Demo Classes Scheduled!

All families are welcome at the Demo classes! Bring a friend and receive a free CD!

Monday January 26th
9:30-10:15 Babies and Toddlers

Wednesday January 28
9:30-10:15 Babies and Toddlers
4:30-5:15 3-7 years
6:00-6:45 All Ages

Saturday January 31
9:30-10:15 All Ages

Call 573-881-1574 or email me today at brenda@kindermusikwithbrenda.com to save your spot!